Goal Setting, Tasks, Strategies and Implementation

Goal Setting is easy. We make vision boards to put up on our walls and slowly allow life to pull us astray because we lacked forming a strategy and breaking it down into tasks to implement.

So today I go fully public with a goal, the plan and the strategy I intend to have in place. You can hold me accountable and check in via twitter, snapchat, or IG. — all handles @keshnadonia

That said, today I took my measurements, my weight, set up a meal plan (I’ll actually follow) and got my mom and sister on board as supporters. Each week I’ll update you with a few stats, images, and progress.

Appearance and Beauty

Appearance and Beauty

I’ve been know to be a girl that’s a little rough around the edges. Not caring too much to wear a full face of make up, if my eye brows are too dark, and often leaving out the house without putting on much lotion if any at all.

I used to follow this blog written by then Monique Brown call the MotorCityMoxie. Its now transformed into Feminine Allure with Monique Head. She’s now married and focuses on helping other women transform their lives, getting a committed man and helping women get what she wants.

Previously, on her blog she would talk about nail enamel – nail polish, wellness and beauty. She would often feature Sunday’s best with great Outfits. I had no idea that her blog was really leaving an impression on me.

This up coming week is Easter and I’ve convinced my mom to make an outfit for me. As a woman getting ready to be married I’m realizing beauty and appearance should matter even if just for myself. Rather than come to work without giving much thought to my hair, I’ve committed to sticking to a wig style that was custom made by my cousin.

While I’m working on getting a few blemishes removed, I put on a little make up yesterday. I shared that I was working on my self image with another relative of mine and she was excited for me. Aside from that I’m just working on bettering myself. As Monique used to say, “be good, look good, do better”.

Before I sign off, what do you think? Does Appearance matter much? Should we care so much about what we look like? Share your thoughts below.

Lastly, that image above wasn’t me at work today — I’m not even sure when I took that photo. It had to be before I left for Haiti Last year.


Falling Off The Wagon

One of the most difficult things I’ve found is getting back on the wagon after I’ve fallen off.
It’s been a constant struggle trying to get back to a regimen if working out, prepping meals, and taking on client work – all while working a nine to five. It’s practically impossible to do all those things and remain sane.
I think back and try to figure out what my motivation was and where my determination came from – and sometimes it was an upcoming event or a team of people that helped keep me accountable.
I have steadily been gaining weight and have crossed over the 200 mark. I can feel the weight weighing me down. I can say it’s in consistency, that work has been stressful, that I don’t have time to prep meals – but when you have a schedule it’s so much easier to stick to and to make progress. And the schedule has to be realistic.
I’m working on taking each day, one day at a time and making a lifestyle change that can last over the years.
I’m reminded by a good friend who shared some verses she quoted while she was running and walking on the track this weekend, ” The race is not given to the swift nor the strong but those that endure to the end”, and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.
Let us continue this race and remember it takes time for our bodies to make a difference.

My Love/Hate of MakeUp

My Love/Hate of MakeUp

Opinions are like belly buttons. Everyone has them but they don’t really matter. 

Now that I’ve cleared that up, let’s dig into my love/hate relationship with make up. 

I love that you can literally transform yourself. Last week I did my makeup everyday and it had a direct affect on my mood and my attitude. No one in the office could tell me off – yes it gave me a boot in confidence. But many people take it that if you need make up to leave the house then you don’t love yourself or that you lack confidence – or that you are being “fake”.  

I see it as part of a costume to play the part, besides when you look good you feel good and when you feel good you do better. 

I remember posting a question on my Facebook wall to get the opinions of others and it stirred up some good conversation. Every person has their reasons for putting it on (or not) but at the end of the day everyone wants to feel beautiful. 

I learned some people wear it just for fun, some people for confidence, others to hide blemishes. Sure we all have our own insecurities and some people just feel more secure with make up. ::shrugs:: (Just stay away from the pool in the summer!) 

Now for my real rant: the things I don’t like about make up: 

– the removal process. I feel like my face is never clean enough. (This is an invitation- if you’ve got good recommendations for makeup remover for sensitive skin, be sure to comment below).

– the dryness it causes to my skin. I like my skin soft! 

– acne! Need I say more? Some products require testing. 

– everyone is at a different skill level and if your face isn’t “beat to the Gods” people feel they have an invitation to critique. If I have the balls to walk out the house with a bold color on my lips/eyes – I could care less if you don’t like it. So long as I don’t look like a clown (less it be the actual costume) I shall be on my merry way. 

– I used to have combination skin and well now it’s more oily. Using those matte products can’t be good long term. 

Things I Love about make up: 

– compliments left and right, 

– fun to play in especially when dressing up for events. 

– adds a splash of color and fun to personality. 

– can be unique. 

So to my ladies out there- what are your thoughts on make up?

Comment below 👇👇👇

Motivation To Get Moving

In 2015 I successfully dropped 27lbs. In my workplace we made our own competition. We would all weigh in on the same day, if you maintained you were fine, if you gained anything you paid $5.00 for the week, and at the end of the competition biggest loser (most pounds lost) takes home the money pot.

I came in third place, but I had additional motivation to get moving and dropping the pounds. My brother was getting married and I wanted to look good. I had a few support systems in place too. Made a group chat with my friends and every week we would check in.

Fast forward to 2017 and I’ve gained the 27lbs back and then some. Currently I weigh 199.4 pounds. For me its not just the numbers that matter. I know I want to be a source of motivation for those around me, and well yesterday I had a conversation with my mom and it pushed me to get moving again today.

She was telling me how she believed I eat healthy and that I just needed to go back to the gym. For the most part I sometimes eat healthy, but we order out so much and sometimes I order anything but a salad. So after the conversation with my mom I felt guilty. I felt like I was lying to her.

I decided I need to be consistent, dedicated and rearrange my schedule to fit my activities. Between 2015 and today I know I’ve experienced burn out from doing too much for everyone else and not taking care of myself. And if you think putting your self first is selfish vs is being selfless, check out this podcast.

I believe we put so much emphasis on the numbers that we forget to analyze the way we feel. I know our body talks, for example if I eat something that is high in sodium, I’ll eventually get a headache and need a nap. Generally, when my mom cooks, its not salty because she has medical issues and doesn’t cook with much salt.

Often I wonder just how “healthy”  Haitian food ranks. Our meals consist of lots of rice and sides include legumes, cooked veggies and meat. I think if the portion sizes were different it wouldn’t be so bad. We use lots of spices in our cooking.

So today is a new day, and I’ve hit reset. No more stress binge eating and time to quit lying to not only my mother but myself too.

Image may contain: 1 person, smiling, indoor This is after I’d drop the 27lbs at my brothers wedding. When I go through my facebook photos the number of full body shots go down so clearly I know whats happening. Most of us know what to do to drop weight and be healthy. The difficulty is discipline and being truthful to ones self.

Today I did 30 min of cardio on the treadmill at a incline of 3.5 and a speed of 3.4. It was more like speed walking and I did break out a little sweat. While on the treadmill the only thought that kept crossing my mind was be kind to yourself.

I believe we go through so many thoughts a day, and we easily beat our selves up for what we don’t do. Be Kind to yourself, always. Now get up and get moving!

At 199.4 lbs this is what I’m working with …

Oh and this planet fitness looks way better than the ones near my house!!!

I choose to love me as I am in the body I currently have. There’s always room for improvement. And you’ve got to start somewhere.

 add me!

In Two Years

In Two Years

This morning I was scrolling through my photos on my phone and I came across one that was taken during my brother and sister (in law) wedding shower.

I was so happy back then.

I was working out, I enjoyed the outfits I was able to wear and well… two years down the line, and a whole lot of stress later – I’ve gained nearly thirty pounds, a double chin and then some.

However, looking at those photos made me realize I can still change a few things.

It motivated me to take my behind to the gym this morning. I did 45 minutes of cardio. I figured that 45 min on the treadmill is more than I did yesterday. I also figured if it means walking the pounds away – so be it.

I’ve been researching more about nutrition and health. Fun (random fact) I always told myself if a career in design didn’t work out, I’d go back for nutritional health. I’ve since reached out to several people that are well versed in the subject and I’m slowly but surely working my way back into better health.

I’ve found that it can be difficult to be well when your state of mind isn’t in the right place. In the past month (March) I’ve had highs and lows throughout the month. Having the right people in your corner is so important for growth strength and improvement in this thing we call life.