Accountability Partners

Accountability Partners

Every first Wednesday of the month I have a meet-up to attend with one of my accountability partners. We meet at a specific location where we get to interact with both new and familiar faces.

I first learned about accountability partners from the seanwes community. In today’s lesson of the ConvertKit Product Creation Master Class (pcm) we were encouraged to form or join a mastermind group or create one. While I’d love to connect with more people, I know I’ve stretched myself as far as I can without breaking. I need to continue to focus my efforts to get results.

How or where to find an accountability partner?

Well I can tell you where I found mine – but I have a few. One from college – we meet biweekly, one from an online coach (mastermind group- this was for a season), another from the seanwes community – we meet weekly, and another where we check in monthly from the same community.

When searching for an accountability partner, you want to ensure that the person you are working with values your time, effort and growth. Here are a few things you might want to consider:

  • Values must be in line.
  • recognize the differences between each person.
  • remember there are levels to this. They should be (1-2 levels) ahead of you if in the same pursuit.

Writing a bukket list

What goes down in an accountability meeting:

A meeting is conducted like this:
Mutually beneficial ( a mentor is one way, be ready to compensate financially)
begin with the last meetings minuets
it has to be regular (preferably daily- mine is weekly-, approximately an hour).
it has to be scheduled
it has to be structured
be sure to take physical notes
be friendly and be human
don’t waste time

Be sure to cover:

what are you struggling with right now
what are you working on by the next time we talk
write down commitments (vise versa)

What happens if I don’t meet my goals?

Well, we’re human and we aren’t perfect. Simply reset if commitments aren’t met
Think: what will I do differently next time?
Remember to be realistic with the goals. (I tend to over compensate with time and say yes more often than not).
Have fun! (It doesn’t have to be business all the time).
I use google docs (and unfortunately there’s a virus going around) and dropbox to share files. I also keep a physical journal or moleskine to take physical notes. It’s always a pleasure to sit and talk with my accountability partner. We are real about our current situations, and what we are trying to build.
Where did you find your accountability partner and how often do you meet? Is it formal or informal?

Motivation To Get Moving

In 2015 I successfully dropped 27lbs. In my workplace we made our own competition. We would all weigh in on the same day, if you maintained you were fine, if you gained anything you paid $5.00 for the week, and at the end of the competition biggest loser (most pounds lost) takes home the money pot.

I came in third place, but I had additional motivation to get moving and dropping the pounds. My brother was getting married and I wanted to look good. I had a few support systems in place too. Made a group chat with my friends and every week we would check in.

Fast forward to 2017 and I’ve gained the 27lbs back and then some. Currently I weigh 199.4 pounds. For me its not just the numbers that matter. I know I want to be a source of motivation for those around me, and well yesterday I had a conversation with my mom and it pushed me to get moving again today.

She was telling me how she believed I eat healthy and that I just needed to go back to the gym. For the most part I sometimes eat healthy, but we order out so much and sometimes I order anything but a salad. So after the conversation with my mom I felt guilty. I felt like I was lying to her.

I decided I need to be consistent, dedicated and rearrange my schedule to fit my activities. Between 2015 and today I know I’ve experienced burn out from doing too much for everyone else and not taking care of myself. And if you think putting your self first is selfish vs is being selfless, check out this podcast.

I believe we put so much emphasis on the numbers that we forget to analyze the way we feel. I know our body talks, for example if I eat something that is high in sodium, I’ll eventually get a headache and need a nap. Generally, when my mom cooks, its not salty because she has medical issues and doesn’t cook with much salt.

Often I wonder just how “healthy”  Haitian food ranks. Our meals consist of lots of rice and sides include legumes, cooked veggies and meat. I think if the portion sizes were different it wouldn’t be so bad. We use lots of spices in our cooking.

So today is a new day, and I’ve hit reset. No more stress binge eating and time to quit lying to not only my mother but myself too.

Image may contain: 1 person, smiling, indoor This is after I’d drop the 27lbs at my brothers wedding. When I go through my facebook photos the number of full body shots go down so clearly I know whats happening. Most of us know what to do to drop weight and be healthy. The difficulty is discipline and being truthful to ones self.

Today I did 30 min of cardio on the treadmill at a incline of 3.5 and a speed of 3.4. It was more like speed walking and I did break out a little sweat. While on the treadmill the only thought that kept crossing my mind was be kind to yourself.

I believe we go through so many thoughts a day, and we easily beat our selves up for what we don’t do. Be Kind to yourself, always. Now get up and get moving!

At 199.4 lbs this is what I’m working with …

Oh and this planet fitness looks way better than the ones near my house!!!

I choose to love me as I am in the body I currently have. There’s always room for improvement. And you’ve got to start somewhere.

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