Sometimes I Just Want To Quit

And then I think of where I want to be, my current situation and all the things my family has gone through to be here in the states. 

Quitting is not an option. 

But the rough stages in life don’t make what you want easily attainable. It’s these challenges and obstacles that build character and allow for us to connect and relate to one another as humans. 

I’ve been interested in strengthening my mind. I don’t want to always act out of emotion. I’d like to use more of my logical brain rather than always resorting to temporary feelings and thoughts that may not ring true. 

The Resting B%*# Face

Are you guilty of this? Or is it more of a misinterpretation of facial expression? 

I must say that when people meet me they tell me about my smile. But when my face muscles are relaxed people ask me why I’m upset. I believe it’s a preconceived judgement – how do you know I’m not focused on some work? Or that my face is simply in its natural relaxed state? 

I read an article about additional misconceptions and you can read more about it here http://www.succeedsocially.com/lookangry

Since I’m aware about my features and how it can be taken the wrong way I try my best to give a smile. 

I’m not always successful at it but I promise you I’m not mad. 

Making the Move 

Yesterday,  I shared a few things on my todo list and today I’m attempting to make the move to a self hosted WordPress site. 

A few challenges and snags: 

  • I was ready to pay for a guided switch. 
  • Paid siteground upfront 
  • Learned majority of WordPress.com team would be away 😒

After spending about an hour with a happiness engineer I decided maybe my hosting site would have something set up. And I was right. 

I’m publishing early today in case I need some tutorials for later. 

I’ve written out my landing page and even had someone edit for me. 

This weekend I’ll be working on flushing out the content. 

Stay tuned to the new updates !!!!

Goal Setting, Tasks, Time Blocks (Pt 1)

Today’s lesson was about lead magnets. Basically, something you give away to your subscribers for signing up for your list and it gives them more information to let them know what’s to come. Earlier this week, we touched on goal setting – making time blocks to achieve what it is we are looking to accomplish.

I am certainly someone who has a problem saying no. I like to over compensate and over achieve – and who am I in competition with? No one other than myself.

One of the main points to achieve our goal after making an outline is to work on something that excites you. At the moment, what excites me is moving my blog to a self hosted wordpress account.

So far I’ve done a bit of research – my biggest fear is breaking something. However, there are plenty of online tutorials. And I’ve scheduled Saturday as the day to tinker and move things around.

I’ve already gotten my outline completed, and I need to expand on the content.

I need to design the cover of my lead magnet and thanks to Nathan Barry for sharing some online resources like:

  • envato market place
  • the noun project
  • and psd covers
  • canva

II’ll be using site ground for my hosting – they are a bit more expensive but I’ve heard nothing but great reviews from them.

I’ve shared my outline and will have a few people review it in hopes that they have actual questions for me.

Another really great tip that I got was to schedule out the week I’d like to have – all 24 hours of a each day – for a week. As a visual person it helps to see what I’m doing with my time. It’s also something I did in college.

As of right now,  about 12.5 hours is spent on my commute to and from work. Add 7 hours of sleep and I’m left with 4.5 hours to work out, meet with other people and most of all work on my side project.

If there’s anything I’ve learned, you need to believe in your product before anyone else will.

 

Accountability Partners

Every first Wednesday of the month I have a meet-up to attend with one of my accountability partners. We meet at a specific location where we get to interact with both new and familiar faces.

I first learned about accountability partners from the seanwes community. In today’s lesson of the ConvertKit Product Creation Master Class (pcm) we were encouraged to form or join a mastermind group or create one. While I’d love to connect with more people, I know I’ve stretched myself as far as I can without breaking. I need to continue to focus my efforts to get results.

How or where to find an accountability partner?

Well I can tell you where I found mine – but I have a few. One from college – we meet biweekly, one from an online coach (mastermind group- this was for a season), another from the seanwes community – we meet weekly, and another where we check in monthly from the same community.

When searching for an accountability partner, you want to ensure that the person you are working with values your time, effort and growth. Here are a few things you might want to consider:

  • Values must be in line.
  • recognize the differences between each person.
  • remember there are levels to this. They should be (1-2 levels) ahead of you if in the same pursuit.

Writing a bukket list

What goes down in an accountability meeting:

A meeting is conducted like this:
Mutually beneficial ( a mentor is one way, be ready to compensate financially)
begin with the last meetings minuets
it has to be regular (preferably daily- mine is weekly-, approximately an hour).
it has to be scheduled
it has to be structured
be sure to take physical notes
be friendly and be human
don’t waste time

Be sure to cover:

what are you struggling with right now
what are you working on by the next time we talk
write down commitments (vise versa)

What happens if I don’t meet my goals?

Well, we’re human and we aren’t perfect. Simply reset if commitments aren’t met
Think: what will I do differently next time?
Remember to be realistic with the goals. (I tend to over compensate with time and say yes more often than not).
Have fun! (It doesn’t have to be business all the time).
I use google docs (and unfortunately there’s a virus going around) and dropbox to share files. I also keep a physical journal or moleskine to take physical notes. It’s always a pleasure to sit and talk with my accountability partner. We are real about our current situations, and what we are trying to build.
Where did you find your accountability partner and how often do you meet? Is it formal or informal?

What’s Your Super Power?

I came across this question through ConvertKit’s Product Creation Mater Class. Last week we started the ideation and process of creating a digital product – and this was among a few questions that were asked – this stood out to me greatly.

What’s Your Super Power? 

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I’m Going to Haiti

I’m Going to Haiti
For the past year or so I’ve been feeling like I need to do something greater than myself. I wasn’t sure what it would entail, however a few things have aligned and well I’m going to Haiti. 
Growing up I’d always hear stories from my grandmother about Haiti. From my imagination it seemed like they grew up on a farm, but also in a community. But she also told me things that sounded scary of which I won’t mention. I also heard my mom talk about her experience vastly different from my grandmothers. The common thread between their lives was that it was a struggle. 
There have been times in the past when my grandmother wanted to take me to Haiti with her but out of fear my answer has always been no. But this time something is different. A change of heart? A change in maturity? Curiosity? 
Many people don’t know where they come from. I am happy to know where my roots are from. To know the language fairly fluently, and to know my extended family. (Mainly on my Grandma’s side) but I have yet to visit the land. While I know things are vastly different, I still want to go and experience for myself. 
Touch someone’s heart before you touch their hands. 
The number one lesson from Mr. Dort the lead person for the missions trip. And it makes sense. You don’t want to simply tell people what you are doing and they not feel connected with your goal, mission and service. 
I’ve been trying to find the Ideal way to put together a marketing campaign to help raise funds for my missions trip to Haiti. I also want to create a resource for people to use in the future. I’d like to use my design skills to raise the funds and its all still in progress. I guess in honor of  Haitian Heritage month its a great time to write about the process, and the mission.
Every year my church goes and gives their time, money, and physical labor to help family, friends, and those they do not know. 
This will be my first time visiting and my biggest fear are the mosquitos!!! 

The case for professionalism

If and when you decide to hire a professional, you are choosing to trust that they know everything important about what you are paying them for. 
How do you know when you are a professional? I used to think that you were a professional when you were getting paid for the work that you are doing. I now realize that this is not the case. 

you are a professional when you can decide if a client is best to work with. you are a professional when you can come to a final result the meets your clients needs. 

its important to seek only the best work and not settle for mediocre work. it is the design professionals’ responsibility to have in place the right systems to gain the right clients. 

Need to learn more? Visit design professionalsim (dot)com 

Dear Creative – Let Your Light Shine!

Today I spent time in a photoshoot with my cousin and sister and we are working to promote my moms work as a seamstress.

My mom has been sewing for more than twenty years. It’s been her dream to have her own business as a seamstress — so we are doing some experimenting with social media and collaborating with creatives.

As a creative we are often timid to share our work. Recently I watched my friends video about confidence you can check out that video here. Her words make sense.

Curious to see what we were working on? https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fkeshnadonia%2Fvideos%2F10102283813207082%2F&show_text=0&width=400“>Check a sneak preview here of todays festivities

You Don't Need Permission

You don’t need permission to be great.

Surely this is a note to myself. I’ve enrolled in Convert Kits Product Master Class with hundreds of other people – and it made me realize you don’t need permission to go after what you want.

You need dedication, consistency, and discipline – all that mixed with hard work, trial and error with a bit of realistic expectations are bound to flourish.

Somewhere along the lines we’ve shy’d away from trial and error. Be it from the advice, opinions and suggestions of those around us or the lack of confidence. I’ll talk more about building confidence in a future post but I’ve found that too often we are seeking permission from people to do things we already enjoy.

Life’s challenges require us to be creative and think out the box. If there’s advice I wish someone told me sooner – and I mean drilled it into my head – it would be that you don’t need permission. Be great at what you do and share, share, share!!!!

There’s more to this note to self that I’ll be sharing tomorrow. In the mean time check out the product master class!!!