It's Not Really A Friday If You Have To Work – Right?

“It’s Not Really A Friday If You Have To Work – Right?”

What is the energy you bring to work each day?

Work is one of those things many people dread. I’m not even gonna front – I find myself dreading work some days too. However I’ve found that mindset is where is all starts. I am known as the early bird in the office. I really despise being late to anything, and since I often arrive before anyone else, I take it as an opportunity to set the day off. I greet everyone with a cheerful smile, get the coffee pot going and set the temperature to a comfy warm setting (ok that last one, I’m typically freezing, so If I get there first I’m going to turn up the heat).

I found myself cringing when I heard these words, “It’s Not Really A Friday If You Have To Work – Right?”. These are words from a co-worker as they headed out the door — before everyone one else – an hour earlier at that.

I couldn’t agree with this statement. I don’t hate my job that much. And for the most part my coworkers are fairly cool. They make jokes to lighten the day and its been a fairly quiet yet busy week. But this coworker seems to be consistently aggravated, annoyed, sighs left and right, and looks for someone to join in the misery.

When I’m having an off day, I need to reach for my headphones and find some uplifting words be it in a podcast, a youtube video, or music that can divert my attention.

I’ve found that even when the assignment or task is mundane, you can find enjoyment somewhere in the process. Most of the frustrations come when all you (or I) do is think about where I’d rather be.

I’ve found a few ways to combat that.

  1. Don’t engage in that behavior. Misery loves company is far too true. And my energy needs to go towards something worth while.
  2. Listen to music. I put on positive music and listen to artists I like.
  3. Spin the negative comment into a positive one. I know I said not to engage, but if this person is insisting on an answer spin it around.
  4. Take a walk and stretch – get away from the environment. Go use the bathroom do something. I’ve found that there is such thing as energy and people will try to bring you down. Run! and get to a better space if you can.

I want to wish you a Happy Friday!

Good Vibes your way.


Red Lipstick

I came home a bit late today, and my mom didn’t see me before she left the house this morning. I headed straight for the bathroom so I could clean my face – I hate the removal process of make up. It takes too much effort in my opinion to ensure your face is clean.

My mom saw my lipstick and said, ” it’s too red”. I followed up with “For WHO?” She repeated herself, and I responded again – “For WHO?” 

And then she fell silent.

My mom has this habit of pushing her opinions on me.

I’ve found that when often disagree with things because she grew up in an entirely different country. We do things differently here than they do. And there are cultural norms that a different here than where she grew up. I often wonder if this is considered home for her. She still holds fast to many of the beliefs of Haiti – but she’s been here in the states for nearly thirty plus years – and she hasn’t been back.

When I listen to the stories she’s told me about her childhood, she had it rough.


And I get it – however, as a young adult, and as a woman – if I want to wear red lipstick then red I shall wear.

I think in the Haitian community it has a negative connotation to it. I need to find out what is the phenomenon with red lipstick? Especially in the Haitian Culture.

Any takers?


Dear Artists: Know Your Worth

Have you ever been in a place where you make or do something for someone and because you are their friend you charge them less money – thinking that it’s a favor to them. Perhaps you’ve agreed to make a birthday cake for their child and you know they have a tight budget, and they know you have really awesome skills in bakery and in the kitchen.
You agree, and it takes 5 hours – from grabbing the ingredients, prepping, baking and beautifying this cake for their child. in the end they pay you $30.00. Is this really worth your time? Really let’s think about this and lets break down more of what this friend is asking you. They know you are worth far more than $30.00 and the way you’ve made this cake – its worth at least $100.00. Would it be better to have given them this cake for free and they tell everyone you made it and how much it would cost? I think the latter is true.
We as artists and designers need to know our self-worth. 30 divided by 5 equals 6. This means that your friend is paying you 6 dollars an hour. Oh wait! Did we calculate travel, the ingredients or just your time alone? when did it become ok to get paid for a huge favor less than what is worth. Ok $30 is low-balling right? Lets say they pay you $50.00. Is it even fair to you, obtain for the costs to get the ingredients?
Perhaps the friend instead purchases all the ingredients, now they are asking for your time and your skills. It’s now three hours of your time – is it worth it?
My Experience 
I think an important question to ask is how bad do need the money? Why am I doing this?, And what value I am bringing for my client. I once was designing a flyer for someone and was charging $50. Little did I know – due to my lack of research and experience that 100 wouldn’t even cover the cost of printing out the flyers they needed. After designing the flyer, they went on to tell me how it is done. In the back of my head all I could think of is if you know how you want this to look, why am I designing this for you?
I chose to let the client go. But they still paid me 50% as that was non refundable. I wanted to give that money back and say no thank you. But they were doing right by paying for what time I had already dedicated to working on their project.
I think its good to have these experiences because it teaches you how to do thinks more professionally. I now know that my fliers would start at a higher rate.
At times I think people think its ok not to pay designers what they want because they can’t see the value of art work or the details that go into making such great design work. So much of this is subjective to ones opinion. Design can always be improved and made better. I also realize that people will pay for what they want and what they think is good.
Think about all the famous artists that have passed away, and what their work is now worth. some millions. Though many have passed before their time their work speaks for itself. It shows that they had what it takes to develop style, characteristic and growth in a medium of their choice. Lets not forget that these famous artists were often times commissioned to do great work. if people in the times of history can respect the time and understand the monetary needs of an artist, why then in the 21st century would people rather find the “cheapest, most affordable” person to do their design and or art work?
The Point of it All
Lets show respect to great artists and pay them as so. So whats the point of all this? I write all this to say remember to charge what your worth. Remember to show your clients the value that you are providing them. Good work doesn’t happen overnight, it takes years to build. Lets start knowing what we are worth and start charging what we are worth. Remember to find the right client by talking to them and getting to know what their needs are. Just like your client, you matter prove them this much is true.

Comfort in the Word

Last week I shared how rough it was for me. I was feeling extremely down – and no I wasn’t depressed. It was sadness that was overwhelming me. It tried to creed back in today. But I’ve been working on it and dealing with it. 

I’ve since been delving into the Word. I’ve neglected this a bit. I’ve been focused on so many other things and prioritizing everyone else but myself and my relationship with Christ. 

Tonight I find comfort in the word. Seeing the promises that were made to me and many other believers. 

I dwell on this – as it was also part of my morning mantra-

The LORD’s loving kindness indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23 

I’m reading the book “Fervent” and it’s already got me on the brink of tears. 

Positive thinking

Last week I listened to a YouTube video where they talked about positive thinking and the affects they have on our brains. 

Last week was a really rough one and I’m determined to go into this one thinking differently.

If you have time check out the Video. I think I’ll need to rewatch it but it was certainly eye opening. 

You Can't Solve My Problems: my experience w/self doubt

For the longest time I’ve dealing with self doubt – questioning my skill level and wondering ” Am I worth it it?” or am I good enough? 

Do you ever find yourself asking these questions? or feeling that you are some imposter posing to be better than you actually are? From the begining I’ve let you know that I will be truthful and honest with what I am dealing with and going through. 

This is my experience in dealing with self-doubt. 

It’s crippling and prevents you from moving forward. 

Prevents you from being committed to what you started. 

Can come from comparing yourself to other people’s work. 

I was so focused on myself and couldn’t get past my own insecurities. 

Rather than constantly consuming, start to create more stuff – which is what I’ve started doing. 

Practice learning from other people. 

Be open about what you are struggling

With like I just did in this post.  

What I’ve done to practice overcoming this struggle: 

Simple stop caring what other people think. Better yet stop assuming I know what other people think. 

I must admit I’m overcoming this in many areas and I’m choosing to move forward boldly.